The Male Force and the Female Force

The other day, I heard a joke and it went something like this:

There are only two things you need to solve any problem: duct tape and WD-40.  If it moves and it shouldn’t, use duct tape.  If it doesn’t move and it should, use WD-40.

As soon as I posted the last blog entry, I started to get information for this one.  What spirit said reminded me of this joke.  They basically told me that conceptually there are two forces in the universe, the Male Force and the Female Force.

The Male Force is that which divides.  It is the creator of everything individual.  It is the first half of the Fool’s Journey, the separation from Source.

The Female Force is its counterpart.  It is the re-creator of unity. Everything that is separated by the Male Force, gets reunited by the Female Force.  The second half of the Foul’s Journey is the return home.

Now, the universe cannot exist without both of these forces at play.  Without the Male Force, we would only have The One as it appeared in the beginning. Every speck of consciousness would merge together as if in the middle of a black hole.

Without the Female Force, everything would fly apart never to interact with anything else.  We would have no chemistry, no physics, no relationship, no language, no connection.  We would experience the loneliest state of being with no memory of any thought ever to leave our mind.

In a way, this is the story of Atom and Weave. Atom, the Male Force, is called that because he is the creator of every atom.  He is what keeps the pieces separate.  Weave, the Female Force, is called that because she weaves the pieces together.

In this story, God creates Atom and gives him a magic sword.  “With this sword, you have the power to break any part of All That Is into separate and unique pieces.  The pieces you separate will remain apart until Weave chooses to reunite them.”

Then, turning to Weave, God says, “And to you my beautiful daughter, I have given you an endless supply of magic hair.  At any time, you can collect individual pieces and sew them together into unique and beautiful creations.”

Then to the both of them, God said, “And it is your job to create to your hearts’ content.  You will remain in balance, and will learn from each other, but you will ever long to create in your own ways.  Atom, keep creating more uniqueness through individuation, and Weave, keep sewing together pieces into ever more creative combinations.”

So Atom created individual colors and Weave painted beautiful scenes.  Atom created individual notes and Weave strung them together into harmonies and melodies.

Now Weave, ever attracted to connection, became a master alchemist.  She invented chemistry and the forces of physics.  Through her alchemy, the atoms that Atom created would bond to form simple molecules and later more complex structures.

When Atom formed sounds as letters, Weave combined them into words and then sentences.  But Atom learned that he could divide in conceptual ways the combinations that Weave created.  When she created language, he created grammar.  When she created living organisms, he created biology.  She continued to bring things together and he continued to dissect them into smaller bits of information.

Now the greatest creations of Atom and Weave contained characteristics of both forces.  Humans, for example, were never simply a son of Atom or a daughter of Weave.  They always contained a combination of the two.  All humans desired some form of relationship, after their mother, but always also wished to remain uniquely individual like their father.

All of the children of Atom and Weave were born connected to their mother, yet would one day choose to cut the cord to her and become a true individual.  They would then move out into the world to live their unique lives.  Yet Weave was always alive within them.  The connections they created would grow forming families and then the cycle repeated.

With each generation, the sons would contain a bit more Weave and the daughters a bit more Atom yet the individual expressions of Male and Female were always unique.

Now, I believe this story and information came through as a result of a silent question that loomed beyond the last entry.  I can still hear some of you asking,

“But why are men the way they are and why do they do what they do?  They know that _____ hurts me, but they do it anyway.”

As above, so below.

The Male Force, ever interested in the survival of the individual and ever present within all of us is nevertheless more present in Males, generally speaking.  It is the Male Force that is behind the desire to “make a name for one’s self”.  The Male Forces desires independence, success, and accomplishment.  The survival instinct and fear of death are both aspects of the Male Force within all of us.  So is ego.

The Male Force thus rebels and in order to maintain its self, resists to some degree the pull of the Female Force within others.  It is not about creating pain; it is really about survival.

In a relationship, when a “man does what he does”, it is, more times than not an expression of self.  If a Male completely stops being himself for another, then he has lost his identity.  He can do this for a while, but will eventually rebel to survive.

The Female Force does not understand this.  She ever desires security within union, bliss within connection.  She cannot understand why another wouldn’t want this same thing.

The key to overcoming the Female versus Male dynamic is to understand two powerful statements.

We are both Male and Female.
Male and Female are illusions.

We may not understand the Male Force as expressed by another, but we cannot exist as an individual without the Male Force within ourselves.  If we consume and absorb that which we desire to merge with, we will be alone once again.  The hunger would not end and we would become like the black hole, ever consuming all of matter around us.

The Male Force breaks down the food that we eat and then the Female Force re-combines the nutrients, maintaining our bodies and keeping us alive.

The Female Force is ever present within all of us as well. We are meant to collect pieces of the outside world to create our very existence. We collect bits of data to grow a wealth of knowledge and know how.  With love, we bring people together and in our alchemical ways create bonds and solutions.

However, when we ask something outside of ourselves to change in order for us to not hurt, it can never be because the pain we feel is created only from that which is inside of us. It is the Female within us that feels pain when the Male Force cuts something away from us.  But this must exist for the physical universe to exist. To end the pain, we must end the perspective of Male and Female as separate to begin with.

When you are looking at a man, if you are solely focused on the Male Force within him, you will find it loud and clear.  But if you look at him as a human, you will see both forces alive and well.

Male and Female are ever an illusion.  We are never just a Male or just a Female.  We are never completely separate nor completely joined.

It is only from the Male perspective that we experience that which we desire separate from us.  The Male Force created time and space to begin with, which is all that separates us from anything. Like time and space, Male and Female cannot exist without the other.

So, the Female Force feels pain until the illusion of separation is undone, however it is also the Female Force that feels pleasure when the pieces are joined together.  Remember, it is the Female within us that experiences the outside world through our feelings.

If you find the Female Force within you feeling pain, look at what is in front of you.  Are you in pain because pieces are missing or are you in pain because the pieces that are there are not what you want them to be?

It is like making jewelry.  The Female Force strings together gems and arranges them into a beautiful necklace.  She chooses from the gems before her.  Can she turn stones into diamonds? No.  Is it worth her time to berate the stones for not being diamonds? No.  Do the stones betray her by revealing to her that they are just stones? No.

Look at what gems lie before you.  If you want a diamond necklace, you must start with diamonds. In the mean time, weave together the best of what is in front of you.  Make beautiful jewelry from what you do have, but never confuse your stones from your diamonds.  Keep an eye out for diamonds; collect them; and when you have enough, string them together into the necklace you always wanted.

Even if your gem is an emerald or a ruby, it is not a diamond.  The more you compare it to a diamond, the further from a diamond it will appear.  In your pain, are you wishing for the emeralds and rubies in your life to be diamonds?

Or are you expending too much energy weaving?  The universe is in balance, and if you’re weaving too furiously and out of fear, those precious threads will get cut and pain will result.

We must listen to ourselves when we say, “I need...” More times than not, perceived needs are really just an indication of fear.  When we need something, we are really just afraid of its opposite. Action is ever a demonstration of belief.  When we work hard to avoid something feared, our actions may very well create exactly what we are afraid of.

[Note that most true needs are completed manifestations of fear. If I find myself needing food, shelter, medical attention, or anything that is a real need, that situation was likely created from a long-standing belief that things would not go well for me.]

One of the biggest parts of creating exactly what is desired is acceptance of the pieces that are in front of us.  We must always be honest with ourselves.  Our beliefs are just as much pieces of the puzzle as are the people and things in our lives.  If we keep telling ourselves that these stones are diamonds, that will not make it so.  And if we keep blaming the stones for not being diamonds, we’ll never find our true power to create what we desire.

Part of the energy of 3 of Swords that we are in right now is about ridding ourselves of some stones to make room in our pouch for diamonds.  With the 10 of Swords, which is also present, we feel pain because we discover that a gem we thought was a diamond is not.  This too is part of the process.  If you truly desire a diamond necklace, all non-diamonds must be let go of.

Look out into the world.  Have you noticed how many examples of the 3 and 10 of Swords are out there?  The situation with Tiger Woods, the financial system, the vulnerability of a city to natural disaster, etc.

Next week, we are going to dive into a question about the Law of Attraction that was submitted by a reader.  We are well on our way to that answer already.

Happy Weaving Everyone!