On January 2, 2010, I wrote a blog entry called Cutting Away the Old based on information I got from Spirit about this first quarter of 2010. In a typical fashion, images came to me as way of analogy and I wrote about them. You may recall that toward the beginning, I wrote about three paths through the 3 of Swords.
Normally, I shy away from writing about explicit personal events, but I feel that this time I am going to make an exception.
Right now, Tuesday morning I am back at my parent’s house in CT. As of 4:00 am Monday, I had no plans to travel, yet by 7:00 am, I was driving to the airport.
What happened? Well, at 4:45 am, I got a call that my dad was in the hospital and had lost such a significant amount of blood, it was not certain that he would “make the night”.
For nearly two hours, everyone’s phones were continually lit up as each member of the family shared tidbits of information with another, including how they were feeling about what was happening. Thus the journey began.
My brother and I had the longest to travel, having to fly, so we would not arrive into CT until nearly 12 hours after first hearing the news. We didn’t get to see our father until 8:00 pm that night. The great news is that, by then, he was stable. He had pulled through and they now knew what had happened. For about an hour, the family surrounded him in the hospital bed and the relief that everyone felt was obvious.
My sisters and brother-in-law, after a long day, returned to their own homes and the boys took Mom home to get some much-needed rest.
Now I only got to see the immediately family, but the evidence of the love of others was everywhere. The extended family (whether extended by blood or not) had shown so much support, generosity and caring. I look forward to seeing them as they are truly family.
Exhausted, I went to bed and right to sleep. Some hours later, in the dark, I woke with a sharp realization. What I had written 23 days ago had almost come to pass just as I saw it! My father has a tumor pressing on an internal organ that had grown to create significant pain just like in that 2nd vision. But, similar to the 3rd one, he also experienced bleeding, significant bleeding, and this took away “choice” and forced a hospital visit as an emergency.
When I wrote those words then, I did not think they would be prophetic. I did not see this happening to my father specifically, I just saw and felt the analogy and it fit the energy pattern that was being conveyed to me.
And seeing my father last night, “looking” better than I had seen him in a long, long time, I knew that he had passed his 3 of Swords. The tumor still needs to be dealt with, and will be soon, but what I see is a man who has already let go of much of what had created it in the first place. And in the process, my father has given the rest of us a huge gift. Allow me to explain.
A while back, Spirit told me in these words, “Feeling bad is not bad”, they then added, “as long as it is expressed”.
Feelings follow thoughts. As Abraham says, they are our guidance system. I typically hear it this way: they give us information. What we feel about anything is paramount to then know how to create a life that feels good.
Many of us, for whatever reason, entertain old thoughts that do not serve us. We serve them coffee or tea and dessert. We were taught to be good hosts, so even though we want nothing more but to cast them out of our lives forever, we still give them a bed at night.
Sometimes, these thoughts cause us a great deal of pain, yet due to other thoughts, we have learned to suppress the emotions. We are not proud of these negative thoughts about ourselves, so we hide the emotions from others to protect them and ourselves. We separate ourselves from others. We put our shields up. If we do not actually keep ourselves away from others physically, we do it emotionally.
When these thoughts are entertained for too long, they produce matter or events. Long enough and the matter forms a tumor or a cancer in our body. Why? Well, what is the one physical thing that is more ours than anything else? Our body. We feel fear in our body and our body reacts, so it makes perfect sense that a prolonged bout of fear will affect our body in a more significant way.
But what happens when we reach a critical stage? Suddenly, we are rushed to the hospital (due to accident or infirmity) and immediately, our body is no longer our own. Our most private parts are suddenly public. Needles are pushed into our veins and wires connected to our skin. We become less organic as the artificial machines assist and monitor our physical vehicle.
The walls around us crumble. We cannot hide. We cannot even take care of ourselves at the moment. We are forced to let everyone in and succumb to the care, to the love, to the attention.
It takes a lot to choose to push through all of this and stay. A door is open and it would be so much easier to just walk through it.
My dad, yesterday, was very brave and very scared. Spirit says, the fearless are not brave, it is only those who have fear and walk through that fear that are.
Through his bravery, he has also served all of us. Worry is still fear, yet as long as that fear/worry is expressed, it is not “bad”. In the expressing of fear like this, old stagnant fear gets expressed too.
How do I know this happened? I could see it in the room. Every member of my family was lighter last night than I have seen in a long time. Everyone let go of something. I am sure everyone felt it, if not in themselves, by looking around the room.
Ever since completing A Fool’s Journey, the cards that have been most vocal in their continued teaching have been the tough ones. They are the most misunderstood. They are the most feared. Yet they are the ones that heal us! They are the ones that change our lives. They are the ones that can bring us to our greatest desires if we let them.
No, the path is not easy and pain free.
And so the 3 of Swords reminds me (and us) that it may show three swords piercing a heart and shedding blood, but at the center of the 3 of Swords is still the heart! It is all about the heart!
Thank you Dad for walking through your 3 of Swords and being an inspiration and a role model for me. And thank you for helping us all let go of some unwanted weight to lighten our load as we continue on…
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
The Male Force and the Female Force
The other day, I heard a joke and it went something like this:
As soon as I posted the last blog entry, I started to get information for this one. What spirit said reminded me of this joke. They basically told me that conceptually there are two forces in the universe, the Male Force and the Female Force.
The Male Force is that which divides. It is the creator of everything individual. It is the first half of the Fool’s Journey, the separation from Source.
The Female Force is its counterpart. It is the re-creator of unity. Everything that is separated by the Male Force, gets reunited by the Female Force. The second half of the Foul’s Journey is the return home.
Now, the universe cannot exist without both of these forces at play. Without the Male Force, we would only have The One as it appeared in the beginning. Every speck of consciousness would merge together as if in the middle of a black hole.
Without the Female Force, everything would fly apart never to interact with anything else. We would have no chemistry, no physics, no relationship, no language, no connection. We would experience the loneliest state of being with no memory of any thought ever to leave our mind.
In a way, this is the story of Atom and Weave. Atom, the Male Force, is called that because he is the creator of every atom. He is what keeps the pieces separate. Weave, the Female Force, is called that because she weaves the pieces together.
In this story, God creates Atom and gives him a magic sword. “With this sword, you have the power to break any part of All That Is into separate and unique pieces. The pieces you separate will remain apart until Weave chooses to reunite them.”
Then, turning to Weave, God says, “And to you my beautiful daughter, I have given you an endless supply of magic hair. At any time, you can collect individual pieces and sew them together into unique and beautiful creations.”
Then to the both of them, God said, “And it is your job to create to your hearts’ content. You will remain in balance, and will learn from each other, but you will ever long to create in your own ways. Atom, keep creating more uniqueness through individuation, and Weave, keep sewing together pieces into ever more creative combinations.”
So Atom created individual colors and Weave painted beautiful scenes. Atom created individual notes and Weave strung them together into harmonies and melodies.
Now Weave, ever attracted to connection, became a master alchemist. She invented chemistry and the forces of physics. Through her alchemy, the atoms that Atom created would bond to form simple molecules and later more complex structures.
When Atom formed sounds as letters, Weave combined them into words and then sentences. But Atom learned that he could divide in conceptual ways the combinations that Weave created. When she created language, he created grammar. When she created living organisms, he created biology. She continued to bring things together and he continued to dissect them into smaller bits of information.
Now the greatest creations of Atom and Weave contained characteristics of both forces. Humans, for example, were never simply a son of Atom or a daughter of Weave. They always contained a combination of the two. All humans desired some form of relationship, after their mother, but always also wished to remain uniquely individual like their father.
All of the children of Atom and Weave were born connected to their mother, yet would one day choose to cut the cord to her and become a true individual. They would then move out into the world to live their unique lives. Yet Weave was always alive within them. The connections they created would grow forming families and then the cycle repeated.
With each generation, the sons would contain a bit more Weave and the daughters a bit more Atom yet the individual expressions of Male and Female were always unique.
Now, I believe this story and information came through as a result of a silent question that loomed beyond the last entry. I can still hear some of you asking,
The Male Force, ever interested in the survival of the individual and ever present within all of us is nevertheless more present in Males, generally speaking. It is the Male Force that is behind the desire to “make a name for one’s self”. The Male Forces desires independence, success, and accomplishment. The survival instinct and fear of death are both aspects of the Male Force within all of us. So is ego.
The Male Force thus rebels and in order to maintain its self, resists to some degree the pull of the Female Force within others. It is not about creating pain; it is really about survival.
In a relationship, when a “man does what he does”, it is, more times than not an expression of self. If a Male completely stops being himself for another, then he has lost his identity. He can do this for a while, but will eventually rebel to survive.
The Female Force does not understand this. She ever desires security within union, bliss within connection. She cannot understand why another wouldn’t want this same thing.
The key to overcoming the Female versus Male dynamic is to understand two powerful statements.
We may not understand the Male Force as expressed by another, but we cannot exist as an individual without the Male Force within ourselves. If we consume and absorb that which we desire to merge with, we will be alone once again. The hunger would not end and we would become like the black hole, ever consuming all of matter around us.
The Male Force breaks down the food that we eat and then the Female Force re-combines the nutrients, maintaining our bodies and keeping us alive.
The Female Force is ever present within all of us as well. We are meant to collect pieces of the outside world to create our very existence. We collect bits of data to grow a wealth of knowledge and know how. With love, we bring people together and in our alchemical ways create bonds and solutions.
However, when we ask something outside of ourselves to change in order for us to not hurt, it can never be because the pain we feel is created only from that which is inside of us. It is the Female within us that feels pain when the Male Force cuts something away from us. But this must exist for the physical universe to exist. To end the pain, we must end the perspective of Male and Female as separate to begin with.
When you are looking at a man, if you are solely focused on the Male Force within him, you will find it loud and clear. But if you look at him as a human, you will see both forces alive and well.
Male and Female are ever an illusion. We are never just a Male or just a Female. We are never completely separate nor completely joined.
It is only from the Male perspective that we experience that which we desire separate from us. The Male Force created time and space to begin with, which is all that separates us from anything. Like time and space, Male and Female cannot exist without the other.
So, the Female Force feels pain until the illusion of separation is undone, however it is also the Female Force that feels pleasure when the pieces are joined together. Remember, it is the Female within us that experiences the outside world through our feelings.
If you find the Female Force within you feeling pain, look at what is in front of you. Are you in pain because pieces are missing or are you in pain because the pieces that are there are not what you want them to be?
It is like making jewelry. The Female Force strings together gems and arranges them into a beautiful necklace. She chooses from the gems before her. Can she turn stones into diamonds? No. Is it worth her time to berate the stones for not being diamonds? No. Do the stones betray her by revealing to her that they are just stones? No.
Look at what gems lie before you. If you want a diamond necklace, you must start with diamonds. In the mean time, weave together the best of what is in front of you. Make beautiful jewelry from what you do have, but never confuse your stones from your diamonds. Keep an eye out for diamonds; collect them; and when you have enough, string them together into the necklace you always wanted.
Even if your gem is an emerald or a ruby, it is not a diamond. The more you compare it to a diamond, the further from a diamond it will appear. In your pain, are you wishing for the emeralds and rubies in your life to be diamonds?
Or are you expending too much energy weaving? The universe is in balance, and if you’re weaving too furiously and out of fear, those precious threads will get cut and pain will result.
We must listen to ourselves when we say, “I need...” More times than not, perceived needs are really just an indication of fear. When we need something, we are really just afraid of its opposite. Action is ever a demonstration of belief. When we work hard to avoid something feared, our actions may very well create exactly what we are afraid of.
[Note that most true needs are completed manifestations of fear. If I find myself needing food, shelter, medical attention, or anything that is a real need, that situation was likely created from a long-standing belief that things would not go well for me.]
One of the biggest parts of creating exactly what is desired is acceptance of the pieces that are in front of us. We must always be honest with ourselves. Our beliefs are just as much pieces of the puzzle as are the people and things in our lives. If we keep telling ourselves that these stones are diamonds, that will not make it so. And if we keep blaming the stones for not being diamonds, we’ll never find our true power to create what we desire.
Part of the energy of 3 of Swords that we are in right now is about ridding ourselves of some stones to make room in our pouch for diamonds. With the 10 of Swords, which is also present, we feel pain because we discover that a gem we thought was a diamond is not. This too is part of the process. If you truly desire a diamond necklace, all non-diamonds must be let go of.
Look out into the world. Have you noticed how many examples of the 3 and 10 of Swords are out there? The situation with Tiger Woods, the financial system, the vulnerability of a city to natural disaster, etc.
Next week, we are going to dive into a question about the Law of Attraction that was submitted by a reader. We are well on our way to that answer already.
Happy Weaving Everyone!
There are only two things you need to solve any problem: duct tape and WD-40. If it moves and it shouldn’t, use duct tape. If it doesn’t move and it should, use WD-40.
As soon as I posted the last blog entry, I started to get information for this one. What spirit said reminded me of this joke. They basically told me that conceptually there are two forces in the universe, the Male Force and the Female Force.
The Male Force is that which divides. It is the creator of everything individual. It is the first half of the Fool’s Journey, the separation from Source.
The Female Force is its counterpart. It is the re-creator of unity. Everything that is separated by the Male Force, gets reunited by the Female Force. The second half of the Foul’s Journey is the return home.
Now, the universe cannot exist without both of these forces at play. Without the Male Force, we would only have The One as it appeared in the beginning. Every speck of consciousness would merge together as if in the middle of a black hole.
Without the Female Force, everything would fly apart never to interact with anything else. We would have no chemistry, no physics, no relationship, no language, no connection. We would experience the loneliest state of being with no memory of any thought ever to leave our mind.
In a way, this is the story of Atom and Weave. Atom, the Male Force, is called that because he is the creator of every atom. He is what keeps the pieces separate. Weave, the Female Force, is called that because she weaves the pieces together.
In this story, God creates Atom and gives him a magic sword. “With this sword, you have the power to break any part of All That Is into separate and unique pieces. The pieces you separate will remain apart until Weave chooses to reunite them.”
Then, turning to Weave, God says, “And to you my beautiful daughter, I have given you an endless supply of magic hair. At any time, you can collect individual pieces and sew them together into unique and beautiful creations.”
Then to the both of them, God said, “And it is your job to create to your hearts’ content. You will remain in balance, and will learn from each other, but you will ever long to create in your own ways. Atom, keep creating more uniqueness through individuation, and Weave, keep sewing together pieces into ever more creative combinations.”
So Atom created individual colors and Weave painted beautiful scenes. Atom created individual notes and Weave strung them together into harmonies and melodies.
Now Weave, ever attracted to connection, became a master alchemist. She invented chemistry and the forces of physics. Through her alchemy, the atoms that Atom created would bond to form simple molecules and later more complex structures.
When Atom formed sounds as letters, Weave combined them into words and then sentences. But Atom learned that he could divide in conceptual ways the combinations that Weave created. When she created language, he created grammar. When she created living organisms, he created biology. She continued to bring things together and he continued to dissect them into smaller bits of information.
Now the greatest creations of Atom and Weave contained characteristics of both forces. Humans, for example, were never simply a son of Atom or a daughter of Weave. They always contained a combination of the two. All humans desired some form of relationship, after their mother, but always also wished to remain uniquely individual like their father.
All of the children of Atom and Weave were born connected to their mother, yet would one day choose to cut the cord to her and become a true individual. They would then move out into the world to live their unique lives. Yet Weave was always alive within them. The connections they created would grow forming families and then the cycle repeated.
With each generation, the sons would contain a bit more Weave and the daughters a bit more Atom yet the individual expressions of Male and Female were always unique.
Now, I believe this story and information came through as a result of a silent question that loomed beyond the last entry. I can still hear some of you asking,
“But why are men the way they are and why do they do what they do? They know that _____As above, so below.hurts me, but they do it anyway.”
The Male Force, ever interested in the survival of the individual and ever present within all of us is nevertheless more present in Males, generally speaking. It is the Male Force that is behind the desire to “make a name for one’s self”. The Male Forces desires independence, success, and accomplishment. The survival instinct and fear of death are both aspects of the Male Force within all of us. So is ego.
The Male Force thus rebels and in order to maintain its self, resists to some degree the pull of the Female Force within others. It is not about creating pain; it is really about survival.
In a relationship, when a “man does what he does”, it is, more times than not an expression of self. If a Male completely stops being himself for another, then he has lost his identity. He can do this for a while, but will eventually rebel to survive.
The Female Force does not understand this. She ever desires security within union, bliss within connection. She cannot understand why another wouldn’t want this same thing.
The key to overcoming the Female versus Male dynamic is to understand two powerful statements.
We are both Male and Female.
Male and Female are illusions.
We may not understand the Male Force as expressed by another, but we cannot exist as an individual without the Male Force within ourselves. If we consume and absorb that which we desire to merge with, we will be alone once again. The hunger would not end and we would become like the black hole, ever consuming all of matter around us.
The Male Force breaks down the food that we eat and then the Female Force re-combines the nutrients, maintaining our bodies and keeping us alive.
The Female Force is ever present within all of us as well. We are meant to collect pieces of the outside world to create our very existence. We collect bits of data to grow a wealth of knowledge and know how. With love, we bring people together and in our alchemical ways create bonds and solutions.
However, when we ask something outside of ourselves to change in order for us to not hurt, it can never be because the pain we feel is created only from that which is inside of us. It is the Female within us that feels pain when the Male Force cuts something away from us. But this must exist for the physical universe to exist. To end the pain, we must end the perspective of Male and Female as separate to begin with.
When you are looking at a man, if you are solely focused on the Male Force within him, you will find it loud and clear. But if you look at him as a human, you will see both forces alive and well.
Male and Female are ever an illusion. We are never just a Male or just a Female. We are never completely separate nor completely joined.
It is only from the Male perspective that we experience that which we desire separate from us. The Male Force created time and space to begin with, which is all that separates us from anything. Like time and space, Male and Female cannot exist without the other.
So, the Female Force feels pain until the illusion of separation is undone, however it is also the Female Force that feels pleasure when the pieces are joined together. Remember, it is the Female within us that experiences the outside world through our feelings.
If you find the Female Force within you feeling pain, look at what is in front of you. Are you in pain because pieces are missing or are you in pain because the pieces that are there are not what you want them to be?
It is like making jewelry. The Female Force strings together gems and arranges them into a beautiful necklace. She chooses from the gems before her. Can she turn stones into diamonds? No. Is it worth her time to berate the stones for not being diamonds? No. Do the stones betray her by revealing to her that they are just stones? No.
Look at what gems lie before you. If you want a diamond necklace, you must start with diamonds. In the mean time, weave together the best of what is in front of you. Make beautiful jewelry from what you do have, but never confuse your stones from your diamonds. Keep an eye out for diamonds; collect them; and when you have enough, string them together into the necklace you always wanted.
Even if your gem is an emerald or a ruby, it is not a diamond. The more you compare it to a diamond, the further from a diamond it will appear. In your pain, are you wishing for the emeralds and rubies in your life to be diamonds?
Or are you expending too much energy weaving? The universe is in balance, and if you’re weaving too furiously and out of fear, those precious threads will get cut and pain will result.
We must listen to ourselves when we say, “I need...” More times than not, perceived needs are really just an indication of fear. When we need something, we are really just afraid of its opposite. Action is ever a demonstration of belief. When we work hard to avoid something feared, our actions may very well create exactly what we are afraid of.
[Note that most true needs are completed manifestations of fear. If I find myself needing food, shelter, medical attention, or anything that is a real need, that situation was likely created from a long-standing belief that things would not go well for me.]
One of the biggest parts of creating exactly what is desired is acceptance of the pieces that are in front of us. We must always be honest with ourselves. Our beliefs are just as much pieces of the puzzle as are the people and things in our lives. If we keep telling ourselves that these stones are diamonds, that will not make it so. And if we keep blaming the stones for not being diamonds, we’ll never find our true power to create what we desire.
Part of the energy of 3 of Swords that we are in right now is about ridding ourselves of some stones to make room in our pouch for diamonds. With the 10 of Swords, which is also present, we feel pain because we discover that a gem we thought was a diamond is not. This too is part of the process. If you truly desire a diamond necklace, all non-diamonds must be let go of.
Look out into the world. Have you noticed how many examples of the 3 and 10 of Swords are out there? The situation with Tiger Woods, the financial system, the vulnerability of a city to natural disaster, etc.
Next week, we are going to dive into a question about the Law of Attraction that was submitted by a reader. We are well on our way to that answer already.
Happy Weaving Everyone!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Men and Women
Each time I update my blog, I send out a message to everyone on my email list. (Shoot me an email if you would like to be added to that list.) Well, a couple of weeks ago, I invited those on the email list to submit questions or topics for future blog entries. One active reader thus responded with this:
In reading the question I thought, “Nothing like starting out with a doozy!” yet, spirit immediately began providing imagery in way of a response. “This is going to be pretty good,” I thought next.
To begin discussing this topic, I would like to take you back to my first metaphysical short story, A New Genesis. Here’s the first few paragraphs of that story:
So through vibration, variation, and separation, individual pieces of consciousness were created. The obvious advantage to this is the nearly infinite and unique personalities created. No two pieces were exactly alike and as each moved through time and space, each would evolve along a unique journey.
However, there was a second advantage to all of this. Not only does each piece have a unique personality, it also has a unique perspective! Through separation, it was now possible to observe The One via All That Is from the outside! This could not be done before that. So now, The One not only had access to an outside view, but had a nearly infinite number of them all at the same time!
So, as I read of the question above, spirit gave me the following vision.
This vision certainly intrigued me.
Yet, before I go any further, allow me to branch off into a concept I have been fostering for years now.
The question (and vision) above separates humankind into Men and Women. Naturally, this is a generalized separation of the population via a single dimension, which helps to understand at least that aspect of individualization. We could consider other dimensions such as race, culture, nationality, size, etc. However, gender is a big enough topic to discuss for years! In fact, many books have been written on the subject, as you well know.
To me, however, it is not just about gender. In fact, I think the following list of sub topics are all pertinent. There is:
• biological gender (male/female),
• gender identification (i.e., transgendered peoples),
• gender expression (masculine/feminine),
• sexual orientation (gay/straight),
• sexual expression (active/passive),
• and finally, what I call gender orientation.
Gender orientation, for me, is most observable in relationships. Over the years, I have seen many a couple, heterosexual and homosexual alike, where one partner was more male identified and the other female identified with regard to the relationship. Now this did not include their expression because that is different. The man above may exhibit quite a masculine expression in the way he carries himself and the activities he participates in, but his relationship ideals may be oriented or aligned with what most of us would consider female. I have noticed that a man like the one above will often be in a relationship with a woman who is more male within her relationship expression, even if she is quite feminine in her personality expression.
I only mention this because, when I read the question above, which is primarily about relationship, I see this as a person of female orientation questioning the male orientation and asking why s/he feels pain in observing aspects of her/his partner(s) that s/he does not understand.
Interestingly, I would also say that the opposite is not generally true. Male oriented individuals probably experience much less “pain” when observing the female oriented partner(s). There may certainly be a lot of confusion about them, but not so much pain. And why is that? Actually, answering that question is half the answer to the first question.
Last week, I wrote a section about pain and answered the question, “What is pain?” In review, pain is a reaction. That means the nature of the person feeling the pain is the primary factor in understanding that pain. Therefore, the gender orientation of the individual makes all of the difference.
Female oriented individuals observe All That Is more through their heart chakra, their feeling center, and thus experience the world through their feelings. Male oriented individuals observe All That Is more through their throat chakra and thus more with their mind. [Logically, I wanted to say third eye chakra but spirit is saying no – it is the throat that is more linked to the mind. The Third Eye is more linked to the pineal glad and is thus not about thought as much as it is about perceiving the non-physical, the psychic gifts as it were.]
So, while female oriented individuals tend to experience pain when seeing something they do not understand, male orientated individuals experience something more like frustration. It is more about the reaction or expression than it is the not understanding.
So, hopefully, that explains to our reader why there is pain. Now let’s ask, “Why is this necessary?”
The answer I am getting right now is that pain, for female oriented individuals, is what best captures their attention. When a female oriented person (of either gender) is experiencing pain, all of their attention is on that pain. They want so much to not feel pain and thus seek very deeply to release it.
This propels her/him toward the deepest level of understanding, not just understanding in the mind, but understanding in the heart. They thus seek "the heart of the matter"!
If you think about it, this gives them (those with the female perspective) an advantage. There is greater opportunity for evolutionary growth! It is, by definition more painful, but is also more productive.
Now, another reason I wrote all of this in terms of gender orientation rather than gender itself is because gender orientation is more fluid and changeable than gender, especially now. Many lifetimes ago, we were one gender and most likely the same orientation that went with it - and that was it. These days, things are getting more and more mixed up. Why? Because that is the way the two perspectives are brought back together.
First we have male and female as two different identities. We were born solidly one and spent a lifetime observing the other. Then we took a turn being the other observing the first. We have done this for many lifetimes building up our unique understanding.
But now it is time for integration. We are moving more and more towards the middle. We are more consciously creating who we are in more detail and with more efficiency. Each individual (of either gender) is gaining more freedom within all forms of expression. A man, for example, might really like being male, yet really like being gay, and really like being masculine and yet really like being female oriented within his relationship. It is his decision, and all others have those same choices. We can even change gender now, which is something that could not be done years ago.
This is a huge gift! And how amazing it will be when we have complete efficiency in our creation of self. At a higher stage of evolution, we’ll likely be able to express ourselves in a completely different form from one moment to the next, changing our “physical appearance” as easily as changing clothes!
In closing, there is one last piece of information that just came through. Some of the pain that we feel is as a result of self-judgment. When observing the opposite expression, which we are confused by but drawn toward, we might be unconsciously judging ourselves as being less than. Our culture is still slightly more dominated by the male perspective, which sees sensitivity as weakness. We as individuals must first correct this misconception within ourselves before it will completely shift globally.
It is exactly the same as with gay marriage. Individual gay men and women must fully embrace the validity of their own uniquely defined relationships in order to shift the global perspective of their partnerships. The process of fighting for acceptance outwardly is really just about fighting for acceptance internally. A la Law of Attraction, once the majority of gay men and women accept their own relationships as they are with no apologies, only then will the world societies no longer have any power to deny recognition of them. It will just be.
In accepting (and loving) ourselves, we gain access to a flooding of acceptance (and love) from all sources, from All That Is, from Source!
And also note: this all is a gross over simplification. Expression is infinitely variable and fluid; categorization always approximate. Even truth changes with perspective. Gender orientation itself can be broken down into smaller pieces. An individual might “think like a man” about monogamy, but “think like a woman” about family. For each subject, the perspective can lean one way or the other.
What makes us universally unique is not that there are infinite expressions, but that there are infinite combinations of those finite expressions! We have always been unique, we are simply giving ourselves more permission to express who we really are.
In setting ourselves free, freedom will be had by all!
Ok.
This question has been on my mind for a long time. I'm reading Conversations with God, so perhaps this is answered in there and I just haven't read it yet, but...
I'm really interested in finding out why men and women are said to have completely different biological designs that often times cause the opposite sex pain, confusion, and misunderstanding.
That's as simple as I can ask it.
Thanks!
In reading the question I thought, “Nothing like starting out with a doozy!” yet, spirit immediately began providing imagery in way of a response. “This is going to be pretty good,” I thought next.
To begin discussing this topic, I would like to take you back to my first metaphysical short story, A New Genesis. Here’s the first few paragraphs of that story:
On the First day, God created Vibration. In less than an instant, All That Is vibrated with Joy, and it was good.
This new concept pleased God, and it also piqued His interest. He decided to continue creating, to play with what He had done, and thus, on the Second day, God created Variation. God decided that if all parts of All That Is vibrated uniquely, then some would be fast and some would be slow. He gave this new concept another name, Frequency.
Now, if the creation of vibration was good, the creation of variation was great! See, as God created variation, there was variation to everything.
Not only were there fast and slow, but there were infinite degrees of each. The more He varied the pieces, the more characteristics He created.
God was curious about all of the variations and thus, on the third day, He created Separation. He reasoned that with separation, the myriad variations could be enjoyed individually. So, through separation, All That Is became an infinite number of individual pieces vibrating uniquely. God called these His Children, and loved each and every one of them.
So through vibration, variation, and separation, individual pieces of consciousness were created. The obvious advantage to this is the nearly infinite and unique personalities created. No two pieces were exactly alike and as each moved through time and space, each would evolve along a unique journey.
However, there was a second advantage to all of this. Not only does each piece have a unique personality, it also has a unique perspective! Through separation, it was now possible to observe The One via All That Is from the outside! This could not be done before that. So now, The One not only had access to an outside view, but had a nearly infinite number of them all at the same time!
So, as I read of the question above, spirit gave me the following vision.
All That Is surrounds a man and a woman standing back to back. The Man sees everything to the East, the Woman sees everything to the West: two unique but limited perspectives of All That Is. Neither can see what the other sees, yet they can interact with each other and describe what they see to each other.
This vision certainly intrigued me.
Yet, before I go any further, allow me to branch off into a concept I have been fostering for years now.
The question (and vision) above separates humankind into Men and Women. Naturally, this is a generalized separation of the population via a single dimension, which helps to understand at least that aspect of individualization. We could consider other dimensions such as race, culture, nationality, size, etc. However, gender is a big enough topic to discuss for years! In fact, many books have been written on the subject, as you well know.
To me, however, it is not just about gender. In fact, I think the following list of sub topics are all pertinent. There is:
• biological gender (male/female),
• gender identification (i.e., transgendered peoples),
• gender expression (masculine/feminine),
• sexual orientation (gay/straight),
• sexual expression (active/passive),
• and finally, what I call gender orientation.
Gender orientation, for me, is most observable in relationships. Over the years, I have seen many a couple, heterosexual and homosexual alike, where one partner was more male identified and the other female identified with regard to the relationship. Now this did not include their expression because that is different. The man above may exhibit quite a masculine expression in the way he carries himself and the activities he participates in, but his relationship ideals may be oriented or aligned with what most of us would consider female. I have noticed that a man like the one above will often be in a relationship with a woman who is more male within her relationship expression, even if she is quite feminine in her personality expression.
I only mention this because, when I read the question above, which is primarily about relationship, I see this as a person of female orientation questioning the male orientation and asking why s/he feels pain in observing aspects of her/his partner(s) that s/he does not understand.
Interestingly, I would also say that the opposite is not generally true. Male oriented individuals probably experience much less “pain” when observing the female oriented partner(s). There may certainly be a lot of confusion about them, but not so much pain. And why is that? Actually, answering that question is half the answer to the first question.
Last week, I wrote a section about pain and answered the question, “What is pain?” In review, pain is a reaction. That means the nature of the person feeling the pain is the primary factor in understanding that pain. Therefore, the gender orientation of the individual makes all of the difference.
Female oriented individuals observe All That Is more through their heart chakra, their feeling center, and thus experience the world through their feelings. Male oriented individuals observe All That Is more through their throat chakra and thus more with their mind. [Logically, I wanted to say third eye chakra but spirit is saying no – it is the throat that is more linked to the mind. The Third Eye is more linked to the pineal glad and is thus not about thought as much as it is about perceiving the non-physical, the psychic gifts as it were.]
So, while female oriented individuals tend to experience pain when seeing something they do not understand, male orientated individuals experience something more like frustration. It is more about the reaction or expression than it is the not understanding.
So, hopefully, that explains to our reader why there is pain. Now let’s ask, “Why is this necessary?”
The answer I am getting right now is that pain, for female oriented individuals, is what best captures their attention. When a female oriented person (of either gender) is experiencing pain, all of their attention is on that pain. They want so much to not feel pain and thus seek very deeply to release it.
This propels her/him toward the deepest level of understanding, not just understanding in the mind, but understanding in the heart. They thus seek "the heart of the matter"!
If you think about it, this gives them (those with the female perspective) an advantage. There is greater opportunity for evolutionary growth! It is, by definition more painful, but is also more productive.
Now, another reason I wrote all of this in terms of gender orientation rather than gender itself is because gender orientation is more fluid and changeable than gender, especially now. Many lifetimes ago, we were one gender and most likely the same orientation that went with it - and that was it. These days, things are getting more and more mixed up. Why? Because that is the way the two perspectives are brought back together.
First we have male and female as two different identities. We were born solidly one and spent a lifetime observing the other. Then we took a turn being the other observing the first. We have done this for many lifetimes building up our unique understanding.
But now it is time for integration. We are moving more and more towards the middle. We are more consciously creating who we are in more detail and with more efficiency. Each individual (of either gender) is gaining more freedom within all forms of expression. A man, for example, might really like being male, yet really like being gay, and really like being masculine and yet really like being female oriented within his relationship. It is his decision, and all others have those same choices. We can even change gender now, which is something that could not be done years ago.
This is a huge gift! And how amazing it will be when we have complete efficiency in our creation of self. At a higher stage of evolution, we’ll likely be able to express ourselves in a completely different form from one moment to the next, changing our “physical appearance” as easily as changing clothes!
In closing, there is one last piece of information that just came through. Some of the pain that we feel is as a result of self-judgment. When observing the opposite expression, which we are confused by but drawn toward, we might be unconsciously judging ourselves as being less than. Our culture is still slightly more dominated by the male perspective, which sees sensitivity as weakness. We as individuals must first correct this misconception within ourselves before it will completely shift globally.
It is exactly the same as with gay marriage. Individual gay men and women must fully embrace the validity of their own uniquely defined relationships in order to shift the global perspective of their partnerships. The process of fighting for acceptance outwardly is really just about fighting for acceptance internally. A la Law of Attraction, once the majority of gay men and women accept their own relationships as they are with no apologies, only then will the world societies no longer have any power to deny recognition of them. It will just be.
In accepting (and loving) ourselves, we gain access to a flooding of acceptance (and love) from all sources, from All That Is, from Source!
And also note: this all is a gross over simplification. Expression is infinitely variable and fluid; categorization always approximate. Even truth changes with perspective. Gender orientation itself can be broken down into smaller pieces. An individual might “think like a man” about monogamy, but “think like a woman” about family. For each subject, the perspective can lean one way or the other.
What makes us universally unique is not that there are infinite expressions, but that there are infinite combinations of those finite expressions! We have always been unique, we are simply giving ourselves more permission to express who we really are.
In setting ourselves free, freedom will be had by all!
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Cutting Away the Old
The transition from one year to the next (and even more so one decade to the next) is a great time to get a reading. It is like taking notice of a rite of passage. January 1st may only be a date that we have created (not based on a specific celestial event); however in giving it value, it has value. As a result, on New Year’s Eve, I was privy to a number of readings.
When doing several readings in a short period of time, I am better able to get a hit on the psychic weather that affects many of us. This year, there was one card that stood out, appearing in many of the readings that I did.
Sometimes when I do readings, I almost forget the meaning of a card. I find myself looking at it trying to draw more information than is in the forefront of my mind. This happened with the one that came up again and again. Each time, I found myself thinking about it more deeply. It was as if I was psychically researching the meaning of the card, searching for more information.
It took me about 24 hours, but I eventually found what I was looking for. Yet it was then that spirit told me that the message was not just for the few. This card was describing an archetypal flow of energy that all could possibly experience and benefit from in the first part of 2010.
I have already mentioned that 2010 is a 3 year (2+0+1+0=3). Similarly to the last blog entry, if I use the Tarot I can again find specific examples of 3. When spirit communicated that this message was for many, they were very clear that the particular card, a 3 as you might have guessed, was an indication of the entire first quarter of 2010. In fact, they said, each quarter will resemble one of the 3’s of the Tarot.
So, what is the psychic weather for Q1 2010?
The good news is that the most difficult 3 is up first. The better news is that the rest of the 3’s are all much, much better!
So, for January through March of 2010, we will be dealing with the energy of the 3 of Swords!
Looking at this card, we see a heart pierced by three swords and oozing blood. It is not a pretty card and is sometimes felt with deep, piercing heartache. Yet 3 is the number of creation, so while the 3 of Swords hints at pain, it has purpose.
With this card, and for the next three months, we are asked to cut away that which is preventing us from moving forward. One reader on New Year’s Eve heard it this way: it is the separating of the wheat from the chaff.
Swords represent air, and thus thought and in this case we find three different ways to think about this. A cutting away of something old is the theme, but depending on your attitude (mental state) and your willingness, you have three analogies to choose from.
In the first case, the blade is a chisel and is firmly in our own hand. This is the perspective of choice, willingness and empowerment where we see what is necessary for our growth and willingly participate in it.
Imagine that we have a very rough stone in our hands, so rough in fact that merely holding it hurts. Its edges are sharp and can cut our skin. Yet spirit is telling us that inside of this stone is everything we want. Maybe it is a diamond, maybe a piece of gold. As is, the value is unknown. We are asked to chip away all that is not what we desire. But this stone is rigid. We must hold it firmly in one hand while chipping at it with the other.
The second vision is quite a bit more difficult. The 3 of Swords is not pretty and for good reason. In this example, the blade is a scalpel, and the scene, the operating room. The patient on the table is us and we have a tumor that is pressing against an internal organ. It has grown to a critical state, or nearly so. We’ve had plenty of warning signs, but none heeded.
The blade is no longer in our hands, yet the choice is still ours. We are scared of the surgery that is needed, but even more so of the cancer. So we allow ourselves to be place on the operating table and cut open knowing it is for our greatest good. The tumor has to be removed.
So we chose the date, skipped breakfast as told, and headed to the hospital. We can have whomever we choose at our side, but they can’t do it for us.
The surgery itself might be quick. A single event could cut us open and tear away the disease. Much of the sharp pain is averted by the anesthesia, but convalescence will be required for recovery.
In any event, once it is over, the healing process begins. The aftereffects of that surgery will last longer than the surgery itself, and we’ll feel worse than we did before, but only for a while. After we heal from the event, we’ll start feeling better than we’ve felt in a long time. We’ll feel lighter, freer and with more energy.
The last of the three perspectives is the one of least control. We have been so ignorant of the errant thought pattern that we’ll not see this one coming. In this vision, we are out walking in the woods, enjoying a sunny winter day. Suddenly and without warning, a venomous snake strikes. Two sharp fangs pierce our skin and we are flooded with pain. Yet it is not the pain that is the worst of it. It is the venom. We not only must endure the pain of the event, but we must also DO SOMETHING about it!
You’ve seen the movies. You know what happens next. The brave person traveling with us or happening upon us is carrying a knife, and s/he knows what to do. “Here, bite down on this rag cause this is gonna hurt.”
Quickly, before s/he catches any of our fear, s/he cuts into the wound inducing an outpouring of blood. The venom must be removed. It must be bled out, and even sucked out.
In each of these visions, there is a cutting away of something that need be removed. The choice is ours, whether to follow guidance and hold the blade, or wait until it is done for us. And notice how there is always a loss of some blood. Even when carving, we’ll lose a few drops here and there.
We never understand why things sometimes get worse before they get better, but there is a reason. In fact, it is part of the cycle of nature.
But remember, the 3 of Swords is a mental card! These are visions and need not resemble anything real! Many of us might not need anything like this at all, but the energy pattern is out there.
Think of it this way, it is like a dry riverbed and we are water. We are moving through time and space. It is easier for us to fall into that bed and flow like the river that carved it in the first place. It might not be the least painful way to get to where we want to go, but it is the path of least resistance.
The best thing to do if you are feeling any kind of pain, is go with the flow and seek understanding. With understanding, pain need not be misery or suffering. It is just pain, a quick stab or a dull ache that recedes with time.
If you work real hard to avoid the prick, you might end up pulling a band aide off bit by bit only creating more pain than was necessary. Or worse, you might hold off your healing, and thus your heart’s true desire, until another opportunity comes along further down the road.
And let’s talk about pain for a moment. What is pain? Sure, everyone knows what it feels like, both physical pain and emotional pain, but what IS pain?
Pain is a response. It is a reaction to stimulus. When we are burnt, we react. When we are betrayed, we react. So where is the pain? Is it in our body? Feels like it is, doesn’t it? Even emotional pain feels like it is in our body. But pain is not in the body; it is in the mind. Our body is just transferring electrical signals.
Do you know why you rub your hand after banging it accidentally? Because instinctively, you know to flood the nerve channels with stimulation to dilute the information of pain. By rubbing your hand vigorously, the nerves have to transmit that data too, and that data does not become pain. The mind gets all of the data and thus lessens its focus on the pain in order to process the rest of it.
I used to wonder why there was so much pain in the suit of swords. Swords represents air (thought), not water (emotion) or earth (our physical body). It is because pain is not so much a true emotion, but rather a reaction to thought, more like a repressing of emotion. When you feel an emotion, you are now processing thought. Think of catharsis. True catharsis will feel like relief and even pleasure while still in the presence of pain. The pain is the holding back, the catharsis is the letting go. In that experience, you are transferring energy from pain to emotion. That is why it is so important to emote! The energy needs to go somewhere!
If you suppress the emotion to avoid pain, the thought energy (air) is compressed into physical energy (earth) and becomes something within our body which will create what? Pain! Thought energy can also be compressed in time rather than space and become an event that will strike at a later time. But what does that create for us? Pain!
Pain cannot be avoided so much as just put off and/or transformed. Why? Because pain is not really any thing to begin with. Pain is the illusion. Energy is what is real. It is ENERGY that is held, moved or transformed. Pain is only the reaction to that energy and if we are going to react to energy with pain, then that same energy later on will still cause pain.
The solution is to change our reaction to the energy! Allow the energy to flow. Allow the emotion (which really just means Energy in MOTION). Information is energy in motion. Emotion is thus information.
The 3 of Swords only wants to cut away that which is hindering us. Offer up what is old. Ask for it to leave and allow the least painful process to transpire. Know that the rest of the 3’s in the Tarot are SO much more pleasant and will come as the year progresses. We are strong enough to walk through this and we are not alone.
When doing several readings in a short period of time, I am better able to get a hit on the psychic weather that affects many of us. This year, there was one card that stood out, appearing in many of the readings that I did.
Sometimes when I do readings, I almost forget the meaning of a card. I find myself looking at it trying to draw more information than is in the forefront of my mind. This happened with the one that came up again and again. Each time, I found myself thinking about it more deeply. It was as if I was psychically researching the meaning of the card, searching for more information.
It took me about 24 hours, but I eventually found what I was looking for. Yet it was then that spirit told me that the message was not just for the few. This card was describing an archetypal flow of energy that all could possibly experience and benefit from in the first part of 2010.
I have already mentioned that 2010 is a 3 year (2+0+1+0=3). Similarly to the last blog entry, if I use the Tarot I can again find specific examples of 3. When spirit communicated that this message was for many, they were very clear that the particular card, a 3 as you might have guessed, was an indication of the entire first quarter of 2010. In fact, they said, each quarter will resemble one of the 3’s of the Tarot.
So, what is the psychic weather for Q1 2010?
The good news is that the most difficult 3 is up first. The better news is that the rest of the 3’s are all much, much better!
So, for January through March of 2010, we will be dealing with the energy of the 3 of Swords!
Looking at this card, we see a heart pierced by three swords and oozing blood. It is not a pretty card and is sometimes felt with deep, piercing heartache. Yet 3 is the number of creation, so while the 3 of Swords hints at pain, it has purpose.
With this card, and for the next three months, we are asked to cut away that which is preventing us from moving forward. One reader on New Year’s Eve heard it this way: it is the separating of the wheat from the chaff.
Swords represent air, and thus thought and in this case we find three different ways to think about this. A cutting away of something old is the theme, but depending on your attitude (mental state) and your willingness, you have three analogies to choose from.
In the first case, the blade is a chisel and is firmly in our own hand. This is the perspective of choice, willingness and empowerment where we see what is necessary for our growth and willingly participate in it.
Imagine that we have a very rough stone in our hands, so rough in fact that merely holding it hurts. Its edges are sharp and can cut our skin. Yet spirit is telling us that inside of this stone is everything we want. Maybe it is a diamond, maybe a piece of gold. As is, the value is unknown. We are asked to chip away all that is not what we desire. But this stone is rigid. We must hold it firmly in one hand while chipping at it with the other.
The second vision is quite a bit more difficult. The 3 of Swords is not pretty and for good reason. In this example, the blade is a scalpel, and the scene, the operating room. The patient on the table is us and we have a tumor that is pressing against an internal organ. It has grown to a critical state, or nearly so. We’ve had plenty of warning signs, but none heeded.
The blade is no longer in our hands, yet the choice is still ours. We are scared of the surgery that is needed, but even more so of the cancer. So we allow ourselves to be place on the operating table and cut open knowing it is for our greatest good. The tumor has to be removed.
So we chose the date, skipped breakfast as told, and headed to the hospital. We can have whomever we choose at our side, but they can’t do it for us.
The surgery itself might be quick. A single event could cut us open and tear away the disease. Much of the sharp pain is averted by the anesthesia, but convalescence will be required for recovery.
In any event, once it is over, the healing process begins. The aftereffects of that surgery will last longer than the surgery itself, and we’ll feel worse than we did before, but only for a while. After we heal from the event, we’ll start feeling better than we’ve felt in a long time. We’ll feel lighter, freer and with more energy.
The last of the three perspectives is the one of least control. We have been so ignorant of the errant thought pattern that we’ll not see this one coming. In this vision, we are out walking in the woods, enjoying a sunny winter day. Suddenly and without warning, a venomous snake strikes. Two sharp fangs pierce our skin and we are flooded with pain. Yet it is not the pain that is the worst of it. It is the venom. We not only must endure the pain of the event, but we must also DO SOMETHING about it!
You’ve seen the movies. You know what happens next. The brave person traveling with us or happening upon us is carrying a knife, and s/he knows what to do. “Here, bite down on this rag cause this is gonna hurt.”
Quickly, before s/he catches any of our fear, s/he cuts into the wound inducing an outpouring of blood. The venom must be removed. It must be bled out, and even sucked out.
In each of these visions, there is a cutting away of something that need be removed. The choice is ours, whether to follow guidance and hold the blade, or wait until it is done for us. And notice how there is always a loss of some blood. Even when carving, we’ll lose a few drops here and there.
We never understand why things sometimes get worse before they get better, but there is a reason. In fact, it is part of the cycle of nature.
But remember, the 3 of Swords is a mental card! These are visions and need not resemble anything real! Many of us might not need anything like this at all, but the energy pattern is out there.
Think of it this way, it is like a dry riverbed and we are water. We are moving through time and space. It is easier for us to fall into that bed and flow like the river that carved it in the first place. It might not be the least painful way to get to where we want to go, but it is the path of least resistance.
The best thing to do if you are feeling any kind of pain, is go with the flow and seek understanding. With understanding, pain need not be misery or suffering. It is just pain, a quick stab or a dull ache that recedes with time.
If you work real hard to avoid the prick, you might end up pulling a band aide off bit by bit only creating more pain than was necessary. Or worse, you might hold off your healing, and thus your heart’s true desire, until another opportunity comes along further down the road.
And let’s talk about pain for a moment. What is pain? Sure, everyone knows what it feels like, both physical pain and emotional pain, but what IS pain?
Pain is a response. It is a reaction to stimulus. When we are burnt, we react. When we are betrayed, we react. So where is the pain? Is it in our body? Feels like it is, doesn’t it? Even emotional pain feels like it is in our body. But pain is not in the body; it is in the mind. Our body is just transferring electrical signals.
Do you know why you rub your hand after banging it accidentally? Because instinctively, you know to flood the nerve channels with stimulation to dilute the information of pain. By rubbing your hand vigorously, the nerves have to transmit that data too, and that data does not become pain. The mind gets all of the data and thus lessens its focus on the pain in order to process the rest of it.
I used to wonder why there was so much pain in the suit of swords. Swords represents air (thought), not water (emotion) or earth (our physical body). It is because pain is not so much a true emotion, but rather a reaction to thought, more like a repressing of emotion. When you feel an emotion, you are now processing thought. Think of catharsis. True catharsis will feel like relief and even pleasure while still in the presence of pain. The pain is the holding back, the catharsis is the letting go. In that experience, you are transferring energy from pain to emotion. That is why it is so important to emote! The energy needs to go somewhere!
If you suppress the emotion to avoid pain, the thought energy (air) is compressed into physical energy (earth) and becomes something within our body which will create what? Pain! Thought energy can also be compressed in time rather than space and become an event that will strike at a later time. But what does that create for us? Pain!
Pain cannot be avoided so much as just put off and/or transformed. Why? Because pain is not really any thing to begin with. Pain is the illusion. Energy is what is real. It is ENERGY that is held, moved or transformed. Pain is only the reaction to that energy and if we are going to react to energy with pain, then that same energy later on will still cause pain.
The solution is to change our reaction to the energy! Allow the energy to flow. Allow the emotion (which really just means Energy in MOTION). Information is energy in motion. Emotion is thus information.
The 3 of Swords only wants to cut away that which is hindering us. Offer up what is old. Ask for it to leave and allow the least painful process to transpire. Know that the rest of the 3’s in the Tarot are SO much more pleasant and will come as the year progresses. We are strong enough to walk through this and we are not alone.
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